Losing as an act of giving meaning to obstacles
- Presented by: Charitini Georgopoulou
- Synopsis: The presentation wants to speak for the act of Losing as an act of giving meaning to obstacles. The main purpose of this kind of thinking is to bring those negatively charged words closer to the way our lives and our world develop. As the title of the Conference signifies, Loving can't be without Losing. But Losing is a very energy- intensive act, it needs the art of giving meaning to obstacles. Closer to this art hopes my speech and existential psychotherapy to be.
Losing is an infinite and energy-intensive act. As an act it can't be seen, it is mostly something that may be felt as moving. But in our being together either in a psychotherapeutic field, or in other circumstances we will talk about obstacles. I would say, It is mostly a way of objectifying the act, a tendency to Objectification, as ¹J F.T. Bugental describes. For example, we will talk about the presence pandemic as an obstacle for our lives, or for a personal illness as an obstacle to move on with our work. These obstacles often give rise to a great amount of stress. Especially, when obstacles are seen as a real enemy to us with whom we have to fight. But what is an obstacle and how can we separate it from our being? Has an obstacle a real existence, which we can welcome in our lives? Is there enough space to include even a great pandemic in our lives? The questions gain their worth not only from their answer but mostly from their presence. The same applies to obstacles, because obstacles gain worth not only from their explanation and confrontation, but mostly from their presence. My thoughts are close to ²G.Marcel, who wanted to describe problems as mysteries. Is mostly an act of giving meaning and life to events and to be present in every case of life.
We live in a word of rapid changes, especially nowadays, and days of great cognitive dissonance as ³Festinger L. could describe, mostly because a lot of activities, known as positive for our well-being, were rapidly banned for the protection of our health. So the road of our well-being seems to have a lot of special paths, some of them unrecognized. Is like, someone is dreaming awake on a ground that is shacking. If health is not something still, if life unfolds through uncertainty and loss, what Existential Psychotherapy can do is to create space on this shacking ground, and welcome every aspect and form of life as a brave step leading to “Love”.
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